What Marriage Has Taught Me




“If you want something to last forever, you treat it differently. You shield it and protect it. You never abuse it. You don’t expose it to the elements. You don’t make it common or ordinary. If it ever becomes tarnished, you lovingly polish it until it gleams like new. It becomes special because you have made it so, and it grows more beautiful and precious as time goes by.” - Elder F. Burton Howard


The majority of people venture out to the married life expecting the best. Expecting it to be ideal, convenient, beautiful, and basically a happy ending. It’s perfectly normal to be excited & positive as newlyweds, the more optimism the better right? Well, I’ve been married for 1 year and 6 months, I know we’re still newbies, but I have learned a lot & those expectations aren’t always true. Today, I want to share with you the reality of a “married life”, the good, the bad, and the realness of it. 
Now moving on, without further ado, these are a few things marriage has taught me so far:
It’s okay to disagree. My wife and I are completely different, very, very different when it comes to most things. “Well why did you marry her?” you may be thinking, well they don’t say opposites attract for no reason. A relationship is not about being the same, it’s about compatibility. Simply because we don’t have the same characteristics does not mean we can’t intertwine and make it work. Communication is the beauty behind it all. You both have to be mature enough to learn about one another, accept each other’s differences, and embrace them.
You are a team. You won’t always be love birds. Shoot, you won’t always even like each other, but you will always be a team. You are his/her main support system. There shouldn’t be another person/friend/relative that comes before your spouse. In order to keep the household functional you both put in the same amount of work. Obviously, husband and wife require different roles but it’s always equal.
Be humble. I honestly believe this is the greatest aspect of marriage that has changed me. Being humble can be difficult, especially when you haven’t been your whole life. However, it is one the most vital traits to have in a relationship. You have to be humble to succeed in marriage, point blank. This may come off blunt, but if you are a prideful spouse, please for your sake get your foot out of your butt and change.
You don’t just, give up. Oh my, I can’t stress this enough! The reason why divorce is at a high percentage. We have people out here treating marriages like juvenile relationships. Nobody wants to put in real effort now a days. Yes marriage can get ugly, yes there will be times you think about leaving because clouded thoughts invade your mind, yes you start to think twice about your feelings. This will happen at a point in time, but you get through it, together. Of course you have to measure the seriousness of the problem, however, most issues can be resolved. I personally don’t see divorce as a light matter. I don’t like to think of it as an excuse to go astray from something that became difficult. You can’t force things, but you sure can make them work.
This is simply what I’ve personally learned & a piece of genuine advice from me to you. 








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